Why is it that only women try to improve their marriage?

Posted: 8 days ago | In: Spiritual Intelligence

Why is it that only women try to improve their marriage? Why aren’t men the same way? I’ve been married for 4 years and I’m always the one who wants to make things better at home. My husband is not even interested in reading an article about marriage. And, when I ask him to, he says that such things are stupid. How can I change this situation? Rosilda, through Facebook.com/CasamentoBlindado

Attention all women in this situation!

First of all, let’s correct the impression that only women try to improve their marriage. In defense to men, there are many who want this and fight for it too. I’m a testimony to that. So, let’s not generalize. But it is true that normally women are the ones who look to improve their marriage. There are many reasons for this.

Here are six:

1. Women tend to be more demanding than men; that’s why they complain more. Men tend to complain only when their most basic needs are not being met.
2. Why is he satisfied with the basic, he doesn’t perceive the need to improve. That’s why when she complains, he thinks she’s just being annoying.
3. A man’s philosophy seems to be: “If the team is winning, why mess with the game plan?” If he is winning what he wants, he doesn’t see the need to tamper with things.
4. Men fear being dominated by women, if they succumb to a woman’s will. That’s why he resists her request, though he knows she is probably right.
5. Masculine pride makes him resist the idea of learning something about marriage, which according to him is a subject that he knows all about, in his mind. (Rosilda, that’s why he doesn’t even want to read articles on the subject.)
6. In his circle of friends, when there are no women around, the “macho man” described above is exalted. That’s why, the man who’s easily influenced tries to live out this role at home so that he can show his buddies that he’s the boss.

Women who are more perceptive and wise will quickly deduce that it’s useless to go head to head against this masculine mentality. Those who try usually end up hurt. It’s much more effective to develop strategies to deal with each one of her husband’s attitudes.

Tomorrow we will speak about these strategies. Deep breaths Rosilda, wait just one more day!

But oh yes, a request to all Rosildas: Why do you think your husband is like this? Why doesn’t he want the relationship to be better? What do you think goes through his head? Leave your comments below…

To all the husbands of Rosildas out there: Why are you like this, or why were you like this? If your wife complains about your relationship, why do you think you don’t need to change or do anything about it? Let’s see both sides of this debate; men let us know what you think… Leave your contribution here!

Message taken from www.renatocardoso.com